Tea trolley and girls
In the Indian subcontinent, Pakistan, India, and Bangladesh, relationships are usually based on a cup of tea. When the boys go to the girl's house to see the relationship, the preparations start three or four days in advance. Every nook and cranny of the house is polished and every stain and dirt stain is removed from the house. The sheets are removed from the sofas in the drawing-room and everything that is considered a forbidden tree for the family is removed and cleaned. New utensils are brought out for the guests. Many sets are packed in the same way and have not been opened for a long time so that they remain new. These new utensils are opened upon the arrival of "special guests", and after cleaning the house, attention is paid to what will be placed in the food and drink. Those who bring a relationship in the name of tea are given a sumptuous dinner. Does the middle class have anything but honor and food? There are some more dreams that they keep dreaming for their children.
One of these dreams is for the girl to settle down and rule her home. In normal middle-class families, as soon as a daughter is born, preparations for her marriage begin. Are purchased and kept. The whole life of the parents is spent in this struggle and when the girl's relationship comes, they try to please the "future father-in-law" of the girl by spending all the accumulated capital and the entire committee. Most people have relationships in the family and some keep telling the relationship makers to tell them if there is a suitable relationship. When it is reported that the relationship is bringing the boys together, on the one hand, there is a lot of happiness and on the other hand, there are some worries about how much it will cost, how many guests there will be and the matter will be settled or no.
Sugar and glassware come out of the showcase, hot dishes are prepared at home, a pile of bakery items is arranged on the table and the girl is asked to come into the room by placing the tea set on the trolley. On this occasion, special care is taken to prepare one or two dishes at home so that only market items are not ridiculed. When a girl enters a room with a tray or a trolley, many people are measuring its length and width with their eyes. How tall he is, what color he is How is it, she knows how to cook, she can wash clothes, how much is her education and will she become "dumb" and live in her in-laws? They try their best to say yes to the relationship if the answer to all the above questions is yes. Some women even touch the girl regularly to check that she is OK
. While the girl is pouring hot tea from the kettle into the teacups, her past, present, and future are fading in the steam of this tea. On the other hand, the guests across the steam are examining the twenty-two years of the girl's life in twenty-two seconds and thinking of an excuse to criticize her. Drinking tea with samosas and cakes makes every effort to find fault with the girl, making fun of her personality or appearance. Her complexion is dull, her nose is not right, her eyes are small, her neck is not straight. Are Even if the girl is a piece of the moon, her methods are still flawed or there are flaws in the food and utensils. Some say the tea is not delicious, some suggest changing the bakery, some say the crockery looks old and some say the girl's residential area is rejected. In this situation, the girl's family is silent because if her daughter had to go to the same house tomorrow, she will have to suffer the consequences, but those who are afraid of the first meeting, they move on.
How can it be good? The women who come on behalf of the boys try their best to visit the entire house of the girls. As the eagle rushes towards its prey, an attempt is being made to catch a mistake so that the girl and her family can be made fun of. After a good deal of meditation, the tea trolley goes back. When the boys get up and leave, it is said that they will think and answer, and those who are more careless and careless, they immediately refuse and leave. Your daughter is not cute. At this time, the parents are amazed that the girl they brought up with so much love, gave her religious and secular education, whose laughter brings spring in their yard, how can anyone call her ugly.
Why is there a demand for a fair daughter-in-law when the color of this region is Canola? This is why some girls ruin their skin by buying unhealthy creams. Fat ‘thin body’ is all the religion of Allah, then why is someone humiliated by being called fat? Most girls die in the process of losing weight. Due to the curse like dowry, people fall into the trap of usury. The backs of the parents are broken but the dowry is not fulfilled. Besides, there is no reckoning for the feelings that hurt the heart. God! Such opportunities
